Well, here I am, six months along.
My Jada took the picture for me 🙂
From the beginning of this pregnancy I’ve been intrigued by the idea of having a home birth. Reading other people’s home birthing stories has been so inspiring too. With this being #3 for us, I feel like I know what to expect now, and would feel comfortable delivering in my home (plus we have a huge garden tub that would be perfect!). So, when I went to my doctor’s office for a checkup I took the opportunity to speak with a midwife.
When I told her that I was interested in doing a home birth she looked surprised. Knowing where we live, she cautioned that if there was an emergency we would be too far from the hospital to get help. The hospital is about 30 min. from here, and she strongly encouraged other options.
The nearest birthing center is 2 hours away, and our local hospital does not allow midwives to practice. So… my options weren’t looking so great. She told me that some women choose to rent a hotel room close to the hospital to deliver in. That didn’t sound very appealing.
She also told me that the next nearest hospital, about 45 min. to an hour away, does allow midwives. She lowered her voice and let me in on her secret; on the weekends she is a midwife on call at this other hospital. She has been trying to get our local hospital to allow midwives, but has so far been unsuccessful. So, she practices there on the down low.
I think this is my best option. I’ll have to transfer to another practice for the remainder of the pregnancy, but she told me that’s no big deal, patients do it all the time.
I really wish I could just have my baby at home. Do you know how nice that would be?? No pushy nurses coming into the room at all hours of the night, checking on you or baby. Nobody trying to take baby away for testing or shots or who knows what else. No chances of a hospital “accident”, or having to worry about somebody taking your baby.
Just the peace and comfort of my own home. Ahhh, but it’s only a dream.
I asked the midwife if I could leave right after having the baby, or if I would have to stay. She told me they will keep me for at least 12 hours, just to keep a check on the baby.
I’m going to be a more difficult patient this time around. I do not want them taking baby out of my sight. I do not want them giving baby any kinds of shots or vaccines. I do not want them shoving that horrible long tube down baby’s throat to suck all of the fluids out. And I wanna get out of there ASAP!
Boy, I hope I don’t have too much trouble.
And now I’m going to have to find somebody to watch my other two when I go into labor. What if it’s in the middle of the night? I hate to have to wake them up and drive them somewhere. I’m not sure what I’m going to do.
See, if I could have baby at home I could just deliver here without ever having to wake the kids.
But it’s too risky. If something were to go wrong I’d regret that decision for the rest of my life. I won’t risk my baby’s life for my own convenience and comfort.
Oh well. I guess delivering in a hospital with a midwife is a good alternative. And it is nice knowing that if there was a problem, the doc’s would be right there to jump in.
So, looks like I don’t have an option. No home birth for me. I just pray that delivery goes well, and my wishes aren’t resisted.
**Update: What a blessing! I was able to find a midwife after all. Read all about it here!