If you’ve ever tried it, you know… being a stay at home mom is hard work! (Case in point, at this very moment I am struggling to type out this post as my 2 year old is literally hanging on my arm!) You’ve never multi-tasked so much in your life!
Sometimes it can get discouraging. We have such high expectations of ourselves, and so many things to get done in a day. Some days we look around our disheveled home and feel like we have accomplished nothing.
You know, those days: by the time the evening has rolled around, there is laundry still piled up on the couch (or strewn all over the living room floor), dirty dishes spilling out of the sink and cluttering the counter top, the bathroom trash can is overflowing with dirty diapers, toys are everywhere, crumbs are all over the kitchen floor, and you have no idea what you’re going to make for dinner.
Days like this can make a woman feel very inept. But please believe me, we all have those days. Us normal moms do, anyways; some just hide it better than others.
We all have our days when it seems that we haven’t had a moment to sit down and rest, yet it looks as if nothing has been done around the home all day long! I know I’m not the only mom out there who has these days. (Somebody back me up on this one!)
It’s easy to be hard on yourself and dwell on all of the things that you meant to accomplish that day but didn’t get around to. But I want to challenge you to look at what you did accomplish throughout the day!
The kids were fed three meals, plus snacks (even if dinner was a slapped together PB&J, and applesauce dumped in a bowl), you changed their clothes, brushed their teeth, taught them their homeschooling lessons, watched them playing and read them a book. Diapers were consistently changed, a load of laundry was washed, the animals were fed, some gardening was done, the kids got their baths, and were lovingly tucked into bed at the end of a long day.
Tell me that’s accomplishing nothing! I always try to remind myself, too, that when my children are grown, they won’t remember the days when the house was a wreck. What they will remember are the times when I sat down and played a game with them, the special part of the day when I read to them from their favorite book, the silly way that I made their bologna look like a smiley face for lunch, or the song that I sang them as I tucked them into bed.
This is why we are stay at home moms. Not to be perfect in all that we do, and run a spotless home with no time to do anything but cook and clean all day long. We are home for our children. We are home so that we can be the one who kisses a scratched knee; we are the one who teaches our children to read, who witnesses baby’s first steps, and who teaches Christ, and right from wrong, through our own actions.
I guess I write this because today was that day for me. But I want to share this with another mother out there who may be feeling like a failure at times. You are a precious gift to your children, and your time is priceless. So what if your “to-do” list was completely lost today. Your children are happy, healthy, and blessed because of you.
Give yourself a break, and know that tomorrow is another day, and another opportunity to finish one of the never ending jobs that comes with motherhood.
The day will come when you will long to have your children distracting you from your household duties; cherish your time with them while they are young, and still near. You can run a spotless home another day.